Friday, October 5, 2012

Good Friends Give Good Feedback

Last October 2, I met with some of my friends at Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf in Greenhills.  I really appreciated the effort they took to meet me at such short notice.  I only called them during the day but they were able to make it that night.  

This is what they reminded me.

1.  You cannot please everyone.
2.  Some people have more troubles than most.
3.  We need to understand and accept our friends no matter how imperfect they are.
4.  Assumptions can camouflage themselves as fact.  Get your details right.  Open up. Communicate.
5.  We're getting old.  Don't sweat the small stuff.
6.  When you have it good, don't just let go.

I am reminded of a verse in 1 Corinthians 10:23-24 that says a person can do anything he or she wants but this doesn't necessary mean it's beneficial or constructive.   No one should seek their own good but for the good of others.

Our pastor often tells us that we cannot control others but we can definitely choose to control our attitude and the way we react and act towards difficult people.

It was really a fruitful night.

My action plan:   Take a deep breath.  Sigh.   Be more understanding and accepting.   But most of all, learn to love.

Thank you to my beautiful and HONEST friends :)